Children without Limits: Going Beyond Challenges and Setbacks
As adults we may feel our lives are tough. There is much to do and even more to take care of. Responsibilities abound and at the same time taking care of your own self is essential. If this be the reality of our life then don’t be surprised when I say that it is the same for kids. They too have their setbacks and get hassled, rattled and frazzled by the challenges they perceive in their lives.
Be it a seemingly small thing to the larger ones which go beyond the mundane challenges of everyday life, they can stretch the limits of children and adolescents in their abilities to tackle them. Ensuring that they are equipped with the right abilities to combat stressors and problems and constantly helping them in improvising and upgrading these abilities is important for them to be able to be well adapted to the environment in which they operate.
The Problems That Can Be
The problems that can crop for a child or adolescent can range from difficulties in academics and exam performance to problems with friends and in social relationships, going on to include aspects of how they perform in extracurricular activities and the pressure to determine how to shape their future lives.
To many these challenges may not even look like challenges. In fact they may appear to be rather easy things which can be easily surmounted. However, for a young person these can be big things which are not easy things to work out. And a lot of the problems that come up can at times appear to be unsolvable. When in the throes of such an experience the child needs to have a good set of skills and strategies in place to be able to find a way forward. At the same time having people around who can form an integral part of the support system can go a long way in helping move beyond these problems.
There are a few things which if followed can help an individual overcome setbacks with relative ease:
1. Remember to put in your best. This helps in ensuring that you do not have any regrets about what you could have done and how things could have potentially been much different.
2. Do not catastrophize the situation. A large number of times what does happen is that the problem gets blown out of proportion in the individuals mind and that does not allow one to take a problem solving approach.
3. Attempt to not keep thinking about a problem. Instead put an effort to solve it. Try and figure if something can be done to change the situation.
4. Solicit the help of others around you to work through the situation in case you are not being to do so yourself.
5. Don’t compare yourself to others. It makes no difference what someone else has or does. Instead focus on what you need to do.
6. Break a problem into its small parts. This usually helps to work through it and resolve it.
7. Do not panic and always remember that no problem can be unsolvable and if it is a problem that cannot be easily worked through, making it unsolvable then remind yourself that the consequence may not be as bad as you may anticipate it to be.
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