Anger management

Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way. Anger management doesn't try to keep you from feeling anger or encourage you to hold it in. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion when you know how to express it appropriately — anger management is about learning how to do this.

You may learn anger management skills on your own, using books or other resources. But for many people, taking an anger management class or seeing a mental health professional is the most effective approach.

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Anger management helps you recognize frustrations early and resolve them in a way that allows you to express your needs — and keeps you calm and in control.

Some signs that you need help controlling your anger include:

  • The regular feeling that you have to hold in your anger
  • Constant cynical, irritated, impatient, critical or hostile feelings
  • Frequent arguments with your partner, children or co-workers that escalate frustrations
  • Physical violence, such as hitting your partner or children or starting fights
  • Threats of violence against people or property
  • Out-of-control or frightening behavior, such as breaking things or driving recklessly
  • Anxiety or depression about anger so that you withdraw

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