Relieve Your Grief
Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim” –
Humans have the tendency to get attached to everything and everyone, when we lose the things or that someone we become upset, hurt, sad and most of the time cry our hearts out, this is what we call grief.
It is a natural response to loss, having said ‘a natural response’, it is normal for a person to experience grief and go through the emotional hurt for a certain period of time.
They say nothing is permanent in this world, it is okay to mourn over the loss, but one needs to come out of it and move on with time and accept the fact that, taking for an instance; the death of a loved one is inevitable.
Although grief is common, it is highly specific for each individual and relationship, one may experience the loss differently.
Every individual goes through five stages of grief, though not necessarily all of them are in a prescribed order, as grief is as unique as the person experiencing it.
Elisabeth Kubler Ross stated the five stages of grief:
- Denial – Avoidance, confusion, elation, shock, fear.
- Anger –
- Bargaining – Struggling to find meaning, reaching out to others, telling one’s story.
- Depression- Overwhelmed, helplessness, hostility, flight.
- Acceptance- Exploring options, new plan in place, moving on.
The stages of grief will give an individual the insight of where one stands and begin the healing process.
Since emotional hurt may become a difficult task for someone to come out of and they’re stuck with the doomed feeling, in such a situation it is always wise to seek the help of a professional.
A brief on Grief Counselling:
- Acceptance and letting go.
- Learning how to live with loss.
- Transforming the loss.
- Integrating the loss with future.
- Creating a preferred future.
To conclude, grief is a natural response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something to which a bond or affection was formed.
It is okay to grieve but never wise to get stuck in the dark world of emotional hurt and if needed there is always a helping hand.
We just have to reach out for it.